Well, it’s time to stop being alone. Dating seems to be something that isn’t as popular or as traditional as it used to be. Many people just skip all that and go to “the fun stuff,” before moving on to the next “target.”
The idea behind dating is to allow yourself to know someone and to decide if spending time with the person makes sense or is a colossal waste of time. Just to be honest, dating can be rough, and it can even lead to embarrassment.
What’s important is that you don’t give up because there’s a single person out there that’s waiting for you to come and stake your claim (not forcefully, of course).
How to Know If You’re Ready to Date
This is a big one. What happens when you do something that you’re not ready for? If you’re lucky, things may turn out OK. However, the more likely scenario is that it all goes downhill.
The nature of dating makes it a thing that people do without evaluating their readiness, but you absolutely need to. In fact, if you’re unsure that you’re ready, just go home and don’t bother wasting someone’s time.
Readiness can be measured in two ways:
- What you want
- What you can give
The first speaks to your desire to have someone in your life as a partner. If you desire an ex or someone else, then do not date! If you do, doubt and regret may just become your new best friends. You need to move on properly, so you don’t wreck someone’s life.
The second point is something you really need to think about. Would you date you? Don’t be biased with the answer. Think of your worst qualities. No one is asking for perfection, but if you’re selfish and narcissistic, for example, you need to fix that stuff before you date.
How to Find a Date Online
This is 2019 after all, so there was no avoiding getting here. To no one’s surprise, this is the in thing to do these days to find a date.
The best advice here is to be as genuine as possible. Typing messages should make you feel a bit more comfortable saying what’s on your mind, so do so.
Just don’t be a liar or falsify your pics. Remember, dating can’t take place online, and when the person meets you, the truth must come out.
How to Find a Date Offline
Ah yes, the ancient art of offline dating. So, technology is awesome and all, but this seems to be the one thing that has gotten way scarcer with time because of it.
The funny thing is that it’s so satisfying when it works. The keys to this are to be interesting while being yourself. Compliments are cool, but they can’t keep a relationship afloat, so don’t start off by burying someone in them.
When you see someone you like, observe the person for a little bit to help you find your icebreaker. Once you do, talk openly, don’t seem desperate, and rest the close-ended questions.
How to Date a Guy vs. a Girl
Guys and girls are socially conditioned to date for two different reasons, since guys are usually chasing, and girls are usually being chased.
If you’re dating a guy, pay attention to where he focuses the conversation. How much about it is genuinely about you versus random stuff and stuff about him. Guys are tunnel focused, so you can tell what they want if you pay enough attention. Also, they’re visual, so look very pleasant.
If you’re dating a girl, then just give up because no one has figured that out yet… On a serious note though, you need to convince a girl that you want her for more than her body, and you need to make her feel comfortable and safe. Also, you can’t be unsure of what you want because a girl’s sensors eat that stuff up.
What Should a Girl Do Before a Date?
Before a date, a girl needs to condition herself to treat this as a new experience. Women are emotional, and this can come out during a date in the wrong way. Remember, this person is not your ex that stood you up 102 times in two weeks.
Get over it and give the next person a fair shot. Also, plan your outfit and your look to be pleasant without being overly artificial.
Also, some guys invite you out and aren’t going to pay for the whole date, so just be prepared with your own cash just in case. You can always pretend he doesn’t exist after, but don’t go out there and get embarrassed.
What Should a Guy Do Before a Date?
Guys need to come up with a strategy to stay relaxed. You can’t make a girl feel safe and comfortable if you’re on edge. If you are, she may just be gone when you get back from using the bathroom.
Hygiene is also a must. It seems to be ignored by guys more often than it is girls. Smell good and look groomed. Here’s a fun fact for you, women notice teeth and shoes very quickly.
How Do You Know If You Like Someone?
So, do you know that butterfly feeling that you get as you talk to a new person? Well, that says nothing but the fact that you’re excited. Don’t buy into the nonsense that it tells you when you like someone.
If you’re a girl, you should use your level of comfort as a gauge. The men women marry tend to make them feel special, safe, and comfortable. You may also notice that you start sharing more with this person because of these feelings.
If you’re a guy, when you start seeing a girl’s potential to be someone to come home to, is the point at which you can safely say you like her.
Dating Ideas for 2019
Here are some random dating ideas you should that you may consider:
- Ice-skating (if available)
- Game arcade
- VR center
- Theme park
Dinner and a movie type dates are way too common, and they rarely allow you to see how fun and open a person can be. You can never go wrong with food, but dare to be different. Here’s a video with some more ideas you can use.